The Problem With Reunions

This year marks my thirtieth class reunion. Hard to believe it has been three decades considering I just graduated a few years ago.

I have a very interesting class. Those silly folks of the class of 1984 just love each other so much we have had a ten, fifteen, twenty, and twenty-five class reunion. Good god, enough already.

I went to the tenth and fifteenth. By the time we had our twenty I was moving to Idaho and no longer in southern California, or Los Angeles where I went to high school. By our twenty-fifth, as luck would have it, we were moving to Pennsylvania.

I guess I could say I haven’t seen these folks in while.


Hello, Social Media.


I know more about folks I didn’t even know or socialize with in high school – nor the other reunions for that matter. I know the names of their dogs. Where their kids are going to college. What they ate for dinner last night. I know when they left their last job and even saw pictures of where they work now. I know all about their vacations and birthday parties and trips to the gym. I know how much weight they lost, what color their cars are, and even when they clean their house. I know every single award given to their children and even the exact moment their marriages ended. And I know how liberal, religious, and conservative they are.

My questions is: do we even need class reunions anymore in an age of social media? Are reunions soon to be in the dying stack alongside eight tracks, typewriters, and Betamax?

I’m still on the fence about going. It means flying to L.A., figuring out how to get to and from the venue, where to stay, blah blah blah. At this point in the game I would go alone. Nothing is more torturous than dragging a spouse along to relive the days when you were too young to watch R rated movies and your life was made up of cheerleading, writing in a diary, and girl drama.

Worse, what do I say to those “friends” from Facebook who de-friended me? Do I just go up to them and carry on a conversation knowing full well that we were friends on Facebook but then they de-friended me? And, gawd, does that put me right back into high school which is the bad part about digging around where the past lives. Oye. And what about the people I talk to all the time on Facebook but truly have no memory of them in actual high school? I mean, I had to look them up in the yearbook and I still have no recollection of walking the same halls together nor having classes together.

Social media has made it easy to regain friendships, (re)connect, share your life with people who don’t live nearby, and develop new relationships with people who share a commonality, such as graduating from the same high school.

It has also made class reunions almost unnecessary.


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